We love words! Yes, words.
We love to hear them from our motivational speakers and pastors. We love to read them in books. And we LOVE to speak them, especially around the table, in conversation with good friends and family.
Words are everywhere!
They’re on signs that tell you what to do when you’re driving. They’re spoken with a British accent, telling you what turn to make on the way to IKEA. You speak words to your kids through toothpaste as you brush your teeth in the morning; to yourself in the shower; to your colleagues in the elevator.
You speak words... ALL. DAY. LONG.
But have you stopped to consider the power of your words? Do you know your words are actually full of influence and creative power?
When you speak, something happens.
Your words are never a simple meditation, observation, expression of frustration, or declaration of life as it is. Your words influence the circumstances and people in your life.
But that's not all they do.
It’s true: your words influence you. They create your world — from the way you think, to the way you interact with others.
The way words work is subtle.
The process of influence happens in the daily hustle and in the quiet moments before you go to bed. Words are always at work. They’re even at work in the in-between moments, because words are the basis for every thought you have.
And they don’t work incrementally.
Thoughts are like compound interest. They may start small, but they multiply in impact faster than you realize.
When you give these seemingly small, insignificant thoughts your attention, watch out!
They start as part of those internal conversations you have with yourself and never tell people about. Once they’re part of your internal conversations, the next step is effortless. It just happens. Small thoughts become the words you believe and actually speak about yourself.
Your thought life is where the action happens. And not all of it is good. Here are some examples of what we're talking about.
Words said in jest about your grit, creativity, accessibility, experience, or work ethic may become thoughts that drive you to derive your value from performance.
Angry words may lead to a thought-life of riddled with shame and guilt.
Seemingly small comments about how you lead or look may increase social comparison, anxiety, and stress.
The unkind words of a former boss or someone you love can replace confidence with insecurity.
Unhealthy reflections about yourself after scrolling Instagram can easily become a continuous loop of self-doubt or a very real fear of missing out.
Right now, you can probably think of at least one or two women in your life who are losing the battle in their mind. They need to be reading this, so feel free to share!
But what about you?
Do you see this compound effect in your own life?
Think about your most recent conversation. It may have been at work, home, or while having coffee with a friend. Now answer these questions.
What or who did you discuss?
What specific words did you use?
Did your words do good work, or did they do damage?
How did you do?
Be honest. It’s okay if this wasn’t your finest moment. We’re going to help reframe the way your words work, just keep reading!
Proverbs 18:21 (MSG) is one of the most well-known scriptures for evaluating the work of your words. It says:
Words kill, words give life;
they’re either poison or fruit — you choose.
We love the simplicity of this evaluation filter: words kill OR words give life. But this verse is tough! It can leave you feeling like you’ve just been ripped for your not-so-kind words during rush-hour traffic... or for the ones you spoke in anger toward your spouse… or for that lunchtime gossip session about your co-worker.
But this verse isn’t written to condemn you.
It’s written from the heart of your loving, heavenly father to guide you.
And you get to choose whether or not that happens. So why not choose words that give life?
Words that do good work are words that give life and build audacious faith.
We may give these words to others, but the place these words are needed first is in your own heart (Proverbs 23:7a).
Proverbs 4:23-24 (TPT) explains the reason your heart is so important.
So above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life. Avoid dishonest speech and pretentious words. Be free from using perverse words no matter what!
Your words do their most significant work by forming your most important world: your inner life. The words you speak to yourself have a "wellspring effect." They fill you up, impacting every aspect of your life. Then they spill out of you, a wellspring of life (or death) to others.
Good words do good work.
And good words are most often words of gratitude.
Words of thanks have a special way of reframing how you think and see the world. When you're grateful, it's like living with a real-life super power. The more you give thanks, the more you're able to see the good in people and even the good in difficult situations.
The good news about giving thanks is that it's not seasonal.
It’s a practice you can do everyday, and it yields a phenomenal return on your investment!
The more you give thanks, the more you’ll see reasons to be thankful.
Say it out loud. Don’t skip this part! Faith rises the more you hear something, so give thanks so that you hear it for yourself.
Then write it in your planner and make a note to do this same exercise again tomorrow with a different gratitude.
Repeat this practice, daily.
Audacious faith is stirred up by the words you say.
And we’re convinced that one gratitude every day has the power to change you in every way.
So... we’re giving thanks FOR YOU!
We're so glad you're with us in this journey. We believe in you and in the bold words of faith you’re speaking.
Keep choosing good words that give life.
Here’s to building life well, together.